I’ve got to be honest with you, recently I have not enjoyed wedding planning and it’s made me question if it’s the right thing to do. You might have clicked to read this worrying that my engagement is over but don’t panic, it’s not!
When my fiancé asked me to marry him, he was asking me to make a commitment before God to spend the rest of my life with him. But the 5 months since he proposed to me has been dominated by wedding planning, rather than focusing on our relationship.
I have been told that we are meant to enjoy this time but to be honest with you, its not been that enjoyable. It’s been quite difficult, for us both. The planning has put a pressure on us as a couple that we didn’t expect.
As Christians, making this commitment to become one before the eyes of God, is THE most important part for us. Most of what makes up a wedding ceremony has become tradition over time, it’s not a requirement but it has come to be expected. I don’t think one person has started a conversation by asking us how we are coping with engagement or preparing to be married but the question has been “How are wedding plans going?”
I know people are excited and it’s a strange feeling for me because I have probably thought about my wedding day for years, even before I met my fiancé. But now it’s approaching the only thing that truly matters to me is becoming his wife. I would happily say my vows in our church on Sunday after our usual service and that would be enough!
So, its not that I don’t want this wedding, I do and I am excited but I don’t want this wedding to take over our relationship and make us forget what this is really about. Lets remember what’s important in this all – that this is the beginning of a new season for our relationship. The wedding day is one step towards that new season, a season where we are going to need your prayers and your support. And remember, there is more to us than wedding plans so please feel free to talk to us about other stuff too 😊